OMG.. CE: thank you so much I am so glad someone else has the anger and the wanting to tell other people so the other women hurts to.. I thought it was just me.

My husbands WHORE sorry thats all she is, works with him and starting txting him sexual tx 1st and coming onto him when she knew he was hurting when my husband and I found our we couldnt adopt our daughter
(this is explained in my story)
She made him feel so wanted and needed and knew I was depressed and we both were devastated and when he talked to her as a friends she knew how to take full advantage .
The day it happened she invited him to lunch and , came onto him and the next thing you know they slept together.
MY husband should have said NO and he admits that over and over but he had never had any1 come on to him but me EVER we had been 2gether since age 15, until this WHORE we only slept with each other.
This women knew me and my child my 7 year old drew her pictures for her office I want to vomit ugh...
Its been 15 months , i want people at the office to know what a nasty whore she is BUT I cant tell them because my husband needs his job, his boss and the president know because she was a freak and wouldnt leave is alone after he ended it, you can read that in my story to. Sorry its so long.
I hope things get better for you I to lost way to much weight I was down to 106 pounds at 5-7 my 19 year old and 7 year old saw my wreck my car overdose and end up in the sike ward ,well my 7 year old didnt see it but he knew things were not right thank god he never saw it.
Lizz
Here is my affair story from another blog

This is going to be long sorry...
Submitted by Anonymous on Wed, 2010-01-13 16:26.

My husband and I starting dating at age 15
(high school sweet hearts) we fell in-love at first site!!
He graduated in 1987 at the age of 17 and our plan was for him to go to college and then we would get married, WELL his parents thought we should date other people, we did not want to date other people so his parents gave him the choice of leaving me or moving out.
At this time I was all ready out of my house. I had left at age 16 due to my parents had a drinking problem, so at age 17,( I was 18 I am 6 months older) got our own apartment, we were young but loved each other and didn't want to break up just due to his parents. We worked 50-60 hours a week to make ends meet and I went to night school to get my diploma. We decided we would get married in a year after we saved for our wedding.
So April 30th 1988 we got married BEST day of our life's, UNTIL June 22nd 1990 when we had our 1st son.
We bought out 1st house in 1991 my husband had a great job working as a IT manager (he is a computer brain) we got pregnant again on 1994 ,our baby died when I was when I was 5 months along and at 26 years old I had to have a hysterectomy we were devastated we wanted another baby. So we starting looking into adoption it was so expensive we knew that it would be a LONG time away.
Things were wonderful (dont get me wrong like every marriage we had our bad days that' normal life) but my hubby came home every day he was a great husband and dad we did everything together we did 50-50 on the the housework on our son's stuff. In August 2001 we were building a house and were temporally living with his parents August 31st 2001 his dad shot him self in the head with my husband , my self and our son(11 at the time) in the house, my father in law was bio-polar and shot 4 times in Vietnam so e had many many ailments and was in chronic pain and just couldn't take the pain anymore. Needless to say this was devastating and we went through hell BUT it actually made us stronger as a family and brought us closer, we stayed with his mother for 9 months helped her get the house ready to sell and stopped building our home and found a home all ready built to buy. ONE good thing came out of this loss, we saved enough money staying to help my mother in law to adopt a baby April 15th 2003 our son came home from Korea he was 6 months old and we were now proud parents of two boys one 12.5 years old and one 6 months old and it was our 15th wedding anniversary what better gift could you have!! So again we are in our new home (well new to us) we had a pool put in we have our new son my husband has a great job I am not working I stay home with our new baby all is wonderful!! Well I start having some health issues and end up having three foot surgery's and one hand surgery we make it through but we get a call right after my hand surgery that my sister is in the hospital she had some kidney infection ( My sister also has MS) things go down hill from there a week later she dies, she was only 41 my only sibling.
Three days later my best friend (child hood friend of 23 years) her father dies. I am at the funeral I leave my cell phone in the van and my mom comes to the church and say your son is in the ER (this is our youngest he is now almost 3, he fell off a chair onto a lego and cut his chin open and knocked his bottom teeth so loose they had to pull them out, YES our luck sucks.
So this is now 2005 , my dad just got diagnosed with cancer my husband and I are trying to by a house with either a in law suit or close to my parents so I can help my mom out, this is very hard on my husband not only do we love our home but the houses in the area we need to go are MUCH higher then here . So we find a house and move 5 minutes from my parents unfortunately it need a lot of work but has more room then the one we sold so we decide to adopt a baby girl from Ethiopia , we start that process as well ,about 6 months after we moved to help my parents they end up moving 3 hours away due to the increase in electric here and their budget YES my husband was quite upset. In the middle of all this I was diagnosed with Rheumatoid Arthritis and have to start Remicade treatments once a month (at least the surgery's are now explained.
Now its 2007 almost 2008 and we find out that the fee's are almost doubling for the adoption of our baby girl and it will be $30,000 instead of $20,000 so now we cant adopt ,we had been working on this for over a year and had all ready put $6,000 into the fee's and they do not refund you any money. We were devastated it was like having a miscarriage all over again.
I starting getting pets I had pygmy goats ducks, birds, lizards, you name it I saved it I guess I had to mother??
NOW is when the BOMB went off the WORST day of my WHOLE life I knew things were wrong my husband had acted strange for a few months when my son went to pron in May ,he had got so angry at me right in front of friends he actually pushed me so hard in the stomach it felt like he punched me I cried for a half hour, my friend has known him 18 years and was even shocked. At my sons graduation he was real nasty and even in the pictures he looked miserable I came right out and asked him twice in that month are you having a affair of course he said no, then at the end of August 2008, we were moving furniture in the kitchen we had remodeled had brand new floor and it was really heavy I am tiny and couldnt lift very well and it ripped the floor we were yelling at each other and he acted like he was going to hit me and I told him get OUT leave
(well he actually left and took close his lap top went to his mistresses house and came back for his motorcycle ) I called him and asked him what are you doing ,he has been drinking that day and should not have even been driving he said you told me to leave and I asked him if he was cheating and that's how I found out on the phone. My whole world crumbled in a second the man I would jump in front of a bus for just shattered my heart into a million pieces.
I asked him to come home so we could talk he said he felt dead inside broke my heart again, I asked who it was and he lied about that to. I was so distraught I suffer from depression as it is so I was a mess I drove into a guard rail going 50 miles a hour it didnt do anything to me just my van which I now to this day still have to be reminded of because we could afford to fix all of it. He didnt even come home when he heard I did that , he said he would come home the next day. When he came home there were a lot of tears and I had 1,000?s which he did answer he said he was sorry and it was over and he made a mistake and ect.. I believed him , he also said it was someone he met that sells supply's to his work but not someone who works there( I knew that was a lie) I did my homework and I knew she worked there. I wanted to beleive it was over but I just had this feeling and I had to find out exactly who she was where she lived and ect...to top it all off she knows me, she took pictures and hugs from MY son makes me want to vomit and she even took money from us the bank raised money for a surgery she had to have and we gave money for it .BUT when I went to WV to see my mom who had open heart surgery in September and checked his phone logs when I got back he had been on the phone with her while I was gone broke my heart again...I was furious and told him it was over ,My husband told her he wanted to work it out with his wife and he loved me and he had not slept with her in a months but because they work in the same department he was still talking to her to keep the peace as he put it, NO WAY she is not talking to my husband for any reason I had all his email passwords now and she emailed him nude photos I was so sick and so upset thinking he asked for them because she said in the message you better tell me you love me again that I took a overdose of sleeping pills I hadnt slept in a week I just wanted to sleep so bad my friend called 911 because I wouldn't open the door and I ended up on the sike ward in the hospital for 2 days.
my husband and I were in counseling and when I found out they were still talking I flipped out and would not answer the phone he left work and came home and we went right to our councilor we decided we had to go to eh BOSS at my husbands work, my husband said he LOVED me and wanted me and if he loses his job so be it ,but she wouldn't leave him alone and this was the only way who knew to stop contact so I wouldn't be hurt anymore.
On the way to meet his boss this women actually kept calling his cell phone I guess the boss had told her she had a meeting with my husband and she was afraid he was telling them I answered the phone and she said put Barry on the phone you crazy bitch ... man I just wanted to.. well I wont say what I wanted to do but other wife who have been through this know what I mean.
So we told the boss and they had to go to the president of the bank my husbands boss has known us for 20 years so this was quite embarrassing for my husband and the president has known us just as long as a matter of fact he divorced his 1st wife due to infidelity. The president warned her not to bother us again or call or email my husband or she would lose her job. Ok so here we are my husband asked me to remarry him we redid our vowels at the poconos May 1st 2009 on our 21st wedding anniversary , we were in counseling 1.5 years , he calls me txs me emails me, never works late , if he has to work a weekend he takes our 7 year old with him so I feel secure. He tells me all the time how he would rather die then hurt me again , how he hates his self for what he has done how this mistake made him realize what he HAS AND WHAT HE NEVER WANTS TO LOSE!!
He even cry's a lot and he is not a emotional man usually so WHY WHY.. cant I get trust back WHY do I feel like he would do it again? Is it because people say once a cheater always a cheater?? I know I have done things in my life I wouldn't do again I have never cheated, but we all do things and say man that was dumb dont do that again. This was a 5 month affair they had sex once a month this was not a long time affair they never went out together he never bought her anything , she has done this before from what the people at work say she likes married men ugh... I beleive my husband when he says she came onto him BUT HE SHOULD HAVE SAID NO NO NO.. he knows that but she also knows he was married and should have never taken advantage of his weak moments knowing he was down he said she would just tx him sexual tx and jokes and he just assumes she was that kind of person HELLO red flag you dont associate with people like that , and NO he did not give her his cell # its on the work directory.
Sorry for the book we have been through so much I feel like I could explode I LOVE my husband but I feel like I will never trust again its been a year and 5 months and I still have NO trust....
Any one does he sound like he wants his marriage like he made a mistake??
PS: They still work together which makes it so so hard on me he has had his resumes out (he has a great job) and jobs are so hard to find right now and this is a stable job, she could work anywhere hers is like a teller position his is IT and he runs the whole department. We were hoping she would quit but I think she likes making me suffer.