I have never cheated on my wife of almost 9 years .never even touched another woman.MY problem is that I was sent naked pics of a girl,and from the same girl had sexual advances made towards me which i declined. and never told my wife about it ,I also kept the pics which is how this all came about .At the time I couldnt tell her why .but the reason was purley simple i enjoy looking at naked women (so does this mke me "a sex addict")We all ways had a healthty relation ship including sexually until a couple of years ago .I think she wanted less she thinks I wanted more .Anyway thats still on going .The reason I kept the pics was because I dont have a lot of control in our marriage ,which most of the time is fine by me but then I started to think that why cant I have a bit more say .so keeping the pics was my way of being in control of something .She always used to flirt so did I we were fine with that,She used to make sexual suggestions she still does but has never followed through with any of them.When our sex life started to slow down I did ask why and tried to re assure her that i could handle it she said she was working so hard then comin home and having to deal with the family .(I always helped out with my part). When she said this I thouht ok so i have more stamina I will do more to help. So for the next year I done almost everything ,Washing Cooking, Housework got the kids organised for school.trying to lighten her load .to which she responded "with thank you i wish i could show how greatfull i am " my response was simple lets have sex more freakwently the way we used to not just on a certain night which to me felt like it was a chore for her to do. nothing improved "i just so tired",ok if someone dosent want sex with you they should jus sat so .I still do more then my fair share around the house .but i have 3 questions. is it me who is addicted .is it fair that she allows people to believe we have a more then healthy sex life and lastly is it fair for her to tease me in front of people when drinking and tell me that some thing is definatly going to happen later , then find out that" Im so tired or drunk or i dont feel well now". Regards 1 VERY CONFUSED HUSBAND.