it's funny, my girlfriend of five years sent me this article, I saw it was about sex addicts and immediately told her I'm not a sex addict, why's she sending it to me ??

but the more I read the more I saw unfortunate parallels with our own relationship. As I say we've been together over five years now and well, I've cheated on her with seven different women - I didn't even realise it was that many until I counted just now - its disgraceful and I feel ashamed, and to be honest I am still relatively young so I think that makes it worse - about 2 years ago I came clean with her and admitted everything, but despite a short lull, in truth my behaviour hasn't even really changed.

I know she has been so bewildered by it all and loves me dearly but is probably moreso scared of the unknown of us not being together. Strangely enough she wants to marry me but inside me I know I cannot if I cannot be faithful to her, and time and time again I have failed her. Wierdly enough none of these women have been better than her, and she is my ideal in so many ways, I wish I could control these urges, and yet despite all this it is she who is reading Dr Gunzburg, not me, which seems ironic.

She is an absolutely beautiful woman and I'm not sure I deserve to be with her, and yet despite everything she'll do whatever it takes for us to have a happy relationship. Obviously I realise now I am a sex-addict now, or perhaps moreso a woman-addict, and I really Do want to settle down and get on with life, but until I'm over this I can't. I don't expect sympathy, just being honest and hopefully we'll both find a way to move on...

Still the main thing is that its very helpful to find knowledge like this here, and even more interesting to read of others' experiences.