My husband has been taking graphic nude photos on his lunch hour with co-worker for over9 years and I just found out about it Dec.2008.She is married with 2 children.We don't have children.I have heard the same line "that's how men are.I have not touched her.Other men could not have been able to do that."That is supposed to make him a"better man" than most of the men he knows.He also said that she is not the first.So our whole marriage of 15 years feels like it has been one big lie.I know too that he pays for sex online.How do you deal with this?He will not admit that he has a problem and I cannot believe anything he tells me.He says he loves me and always has but how can that be?He will not be transparent like you say it should be.He says he needs his privacy.My health is suffering,mental and physical,but he won't see it.He will not sleep in our bed or have sex with me until I get over it.I feel like I'm being punished!