Reading most of the comments here doesn't seem to offer much hope (from the guilty persons point of view). I never cheated on my wife, but I was "addicted" to porn, went to strip clubs, and did some flirting. This happened very early in our marriage and continued almost up until the time she divorced me. One interesting point is that it wasn't so much about the actions themselves, but it was about the lies and the cover ups. I went through a 3 year period when I gave all of this behavior up. Our marriage was very good. My wife, however, was still feeling the hurt and the pain of my lies. Eventually, she wasn't able to get past this pain (we had a few counselling sessions, but they didn't seem to help). She divorced me after almost 22 years of marriage. There's not a day that goes by that I don't regret the things that I did. I still hope and pray that at some pont in the future we can be together again, but I know that no matter how much I want something, it isn't up to me anymore.
~Arjay~