I was married for over 33 years before I found out my husband was addicted to sex. We always had a good sex life, not as frequent as I would have liked at times, but always satisfying for us both. I never would have guessed it was because he was having sex with other women. If he wasn't at work he was at home - who knew he could leave work on his meal break and have sex. In 2003 I discovered a hotel key and my husband confessed to having had a one night stand with a woman he met. I later found out the counselor (who we started seeing the same day my husband confessed) didn't think I could handle the term "sex addict" so he hid it from me. I found out that one night stand had been going on for at least 1 1/2 years. She was married also. My husband was also seeing another woman at the same time - had been seeing her for 5 years. And there were many others, going back to about one month after we were married. One was my sister. His longest relationship was over 10 years. It took my husband 4 years to tell me this - a little at a time -and I am still here. My husband made many changes in himself and we talked and cried and talked and cried together and we continued counseling together and separate for all that time. Some days are still hard to stay with him but as time goes by and he continues to be my "new" husband I will continue to fight for our happiness together. I try to look at his addiction as an illness - and most days I'm looking forward not back.