I have read the comments now twice, and see my marriage in many of the stories. We have been married 35 years, my husband has had 4 affairs that I know of. Like many of the comments, I too thought it was my fault, and forgave. It took me 4 affairs to realize that he is addicted to sex or women, which I never heard of before. The first 3 affairs, I accept and decided to work through the affairs, same story, spouse justifies behavior, makes excues, does not accept responsibility for behavior, master manipulator, (he said that I was boring, had no friends, the dumbest woman that walked the face of the earth) lies, loves me, does not want a divorce, started getting help, but has not followed through. This last affair was different, he had the affair with the same woman, he did on his 2nd affair. When I finally realized that something was going on and found out, he promised that he had ended it, but 4 months later, I found out that he had purchased a house without my knowledge, (hard to believe that I did not know), with plans to flip it with this woman. He had no intentions of telling me ontil he needed my signature to sign to sell. One to buy, 2 to sell. If this house was successful, planned to continue to flip houses with her. Also, I knew he had a separate checking account, never saw the statements, thought they were sent by email, found out that the statements were going to her house. I have been emotionally destroyed. He said he has ended the relationship with her again, saying to her that he wanted to work on our marriage. Okay, I believed him again. Now that everything is in the open he will not talk to me about it. When I think it is a good time to ask questions, he shuts down. This has been going on for about 6 months now. My question is why am I staying in this relationship, I see no changes, even though he says he is working on it. Any suggestions, why I am staying???