My ex partner, or partner, I am never sure which it is because one day he says he loves me the next day he acts like he hates the ground I walk on and nothing I say is right and tells me there is no relationship anymore.

On his friendly days he comes onto me for sex. The sex is degrading because he talks to me like they talk on the porno movies and asks me if I am f****g someone else and that he would like me to tell him all about it. He once wanted to make a sex movie and enter it into a competition.  He wanted me to go to swingers dances and to meet swinging couples privately. I refused. He said if I wouldn't go with him he would find someone who would. He never did.

 If I say I am not interested in sex he goes into off days and ignores me. I guess its the way he asks me too. No kisses, no hugs. No holding and cuddling after. He just goes to sleep.

  I see the photos of the women who have sent him their private photos, the porn sites he is on, the dating sites where he tells so many lies about himself. I read what he wants to do with them and that they have seen nude photos of him and are now saving themselves for him, but need money before any more photos come.I wish I didn't know, but I had to find out what was going on and why he was acting like he does.He says whatever he does in his private life is his  business and has nothing to do with me and that if he send money to someone that it is nothing to do with me either.

I don't know how to handle the deceipt, the lies, the way of life he has made for himself. I don't think I could ever trust him again.