I am afraid my husband is a sex addict. He has actually written to a man to have sex with him. And he has had a conversation with a woman living in a motel looking for men to pay for her toothless services. He promised he would never do it again. But a couple of weeks ago he left his email open after coming home in the middle of the day and his history showed he had been on craigslist looking at men seeking men, casual encounters, and Match.com. He gave me some song-and-dance excuse about meeting someone in Home Depot that someone told him was gay, so he wanted to see for himself.

I thought we had a very healthy sex life, I have never refused his advances, infact, I usually doing the initiating.

I am at my wits-end and ready to throw in the towel. It makes me feel like he can't be trusted, and I am feeling very insecure. I don't like the way it makes me feel.

Thanks, Kathy