Tell me, are you guys feeling the same ups and downs that are described in the books?

My husband tells me that he doesn't think he would feel as upset as I have been. He also thinks that he would have forgiven me by now (7 months - sorta. It took 5 months to finally get him to actually admit and take responsibility).

So, my question is this: Do men actually "feel" differently when they are betrayed? I understand that women tend to worry more about "emotional connections" and men worry more about "sexual" but doesn't it still hurt the same way, regardless of gender?

I ask because, frankly, my fellow really stinks at taking someone else's perspective. I also think he is still holding onto some denial in order to keep himself from feeling like a failure (which, unfortunately, I hold some responsibility for because I have, on moer than one occassion, really berated him over this infidelity).

CE