My situation is a little different in that I never got to actually marry this man. He is the father of my second child and never actually was faithful. Three months in was the first time he cheated and I forgave him. He, however, has had a traumatic brain injury. In 2003 he was in a horrible car accident that left him in a coma for 14 days and when he awoke he had to learn how to talk, walk and feed himself again. I didn't know then or before then. It's hard for me to grasp the fact that everything he does wrong is to be blamed on this tragedy. I know the part of his brain that was injured has an affect on his decision making skills but I just can't surrender myself to the fact that possibly he'll never be faithful because of this tragedy. After a year and a half and numerous times of infidelity I let him go. Two months later he just knew he could be the man that I needed him to be and he wanted to be with his family so I took him back. Meanwhile he was still on the computer meeting new women, meeting them in person, etc. etc. etc. I found all this out a month later and let him go again. It's been seven months since then and he actually still occupies himself with one of the women he met when I took him back in. It's like he bounces back and forth between the two of us and he can't ever be alone to allow himself to get the help he needs to be the person I need him to be. He does actually get a lot of therapy. He sees a counselor & a psychologist and he takes medicines to supposedly make him like a normal person.
I guess I just don't understand the whole brain injury concept and I'm guarding my heart for dear life because this is actually the second relationship that I've been in where my significant other was unfaithful. Anybody have any suggestions?